On sex and privacy on social media
Emotions are a personal experience, hence, I consider them private and something to be experienced and processed alone, or with someone close to me.
A friend once asked, “You make a lot of sex jokes on Facebook but never post about your personal life. Why?”
Sex is almost a universal experience, hence, I don’t consider it private. Everyone’s going to put a dick in their mouth eventually, so I don’t see anything mystifying about it. It’s actually a boring topic. It’s as boring as jaywalking. Everybody does it or will do it. So what’s the fuss?
Also, conversations on sex and sexuality break barriers with people. If you want someone to get comfortable with you, tell them you like smelling used underwear as a fetish and you’ll be in it for a great friendship. Sex makes us human, hence, more approachable. And I think everyone should make being approachable a habit.
However, I am more reserved when it comes to my emotional life. You will never see me posting about a date or a break-up on Facebook. Emotions are a personal experience, hence, I consider them private and something to be experienced and processed alone, or with someone close to me. I also don’t share about my relationships because I don’t think a random Facebook friend from, say, India who’s looking for “vagene” needs to know about them.
I might share what I have learned from a personal experience from time to time, but I don’t feel obliged nor find it interesting to share my emotions with everyone else on the Internet. It’s the reason why despite the fact that I post a lot of “inappropriate” or risqué stuff on Facebook, I am able to keep my privacy.
